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ASK MERRILY/How to Ask for What I Need

Posted on Apr 12,2010
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Photo by FLICKR/brandejackson/397223595/<br /> <br />Green Day's Tre Cool and ONE Volunteers.<br />
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Green Day's Tre Cool and ONE Volunteers.

ALEXANDRIA, VA. -- I know what to do, but I need assistance.  I am volunteering in a six-week interim position as manager of a small apartment building near a spiritual retreat.  I adore my studio apartment with my own space and privacy, which is essential for my writing.  I have free lance assignments and a newspaper column which produce income.  I have started a novel and a book of my travels.  But when I accepted the job, I agreed to move to the main part of the retreat to share a house with 2 other women after the six weeks.  Although I like the women, privacy is my first choice.  I revel in my little desert studio.  I want to move to one of the vacant, volunteer/staff houses.  The income from my writing allows me to volunteer at the retreat.  This is a valid request that I don’t need to apologize for, but I am afraid to ask and don’t know how to word it.  I need to act soon.  Help.

Dear Volunteer,

Your words must come straight from your heart and be clear.  How does this sound?

I adore my studio apartment with my own space and privacy, which is essential for my writing.  I have free lance assignments and a newspaper column which produce income.  I have started a novel and a book of my travels.  I revel in my little desert studio.  When I have to give it up, I prefer to move to one of the vacant, volunteer/staff houses where I can be alone to write.  The income from my writing allows me to remain at the retreat as a volunteer.  Having privacy is my first choice. Is this a possibility?

Whose words are these?  Yours.  Are they clear?  Yes.  After all, you are a writer.

It’s ok to be afraid to ask, but the fear cannot be allowed to make the decision.  Look at your family dynamic around asking for what you need.  If that is not allowed, learn to hurdle this false constraint which no longer serves.  Know and faithfully tend to your soul’s desires.  

Let us know if you move into a house, please.

Merrily Preston is an Intentional Life Facilitator, who lives in Woodbridge. Her column is exclusive to Local Kicks. Email questions to merrily8@comcast.net, or use online form at www.anintentionallife.com



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