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ASK MERRILY/Go West, Young Woman

Posted on Aug 23,2009
Filed Under Personal Development , Opinions,

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This is all so amazing. I had wanted a buyout from the newspaper where I have been managing editor for 20 years, and it has happened.  I have time and money for the western vacation I have dreamed of: exploring, planning, finding my next job. I applied to be public relations director of a school system here and I have an interview. I could move right into this job.  The money is better than I make now.  But, this is a double-edged sword. The plus side: money. I'd be drawing two paychecks. I could get my finances in order and move West in a year without encumbrances.

The negative side: I have planned my trip for this fall.  If I don’t seize this opportunity, will it come again? Knowing myself, if they make an offer I will take it.  It is practical and financially attractive.  Then deep inside, I will dry up again.  HELP. 
Dear Dry-Up-Again,
Listen to your words.  ; “Knowing myself as I do, if they make an offer I will take it . . . Then deep inside, I will dry up again.”  I shudder to read this.
You see a sword with two compelling but very different sides: money on one, your heart on the other.  
Could you broaden your perspective?  Could you have both – money and your heart’s desire?  Have you considered what your “work” is to be?  Work is different from “a job”.  Your work may be writing. 

We cannot know if the opportunity for the western trip will manifest again.  You asked for this opportunity and it is here now.  Could you see the job offer as just one option in an infinite number of possibilities?  Please do not make a quick decision.  
I have been taught that when we ask for a pink Cadillac, a red Buick may be sent first to see if we will settle for it.
Mark Twain:  Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do.  . . . throw off the bowlines.  Sail away from the safe harbor. . .
I anxiously await your decision.   
Merrily Preston is an Intentional Life Facilitator, who lives in Woodbridge. Her column is exclusive to Local Kicks in Alexandria, VA. Email questions to, or use online form at

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