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Merrily Preston
By Merrily Preston
Posted on Mar 22,2010
Filed Under Personal Development , Opinions,

ALEXANDRIA, VA. - My mom has flown to Chile for her vacation.  Her plane was due to land a few hours after the earthquake.  Since Chile is technologically advanced, they probably would not land the plane if there were any risk. My two grandmothers are concerned, one is frantic.  I am concerned too and in the middle of college exams.  Family members and friends are calling to ask if mom is ok, but I haven’t heard anything.  I don’t think I could reach her in Chile by cell phone now.  I was already stressed over my exams.  How do I stay focused?  I don’t want to blow this out of proportion.  Antsy

Dear Antsy,

Sometimes there is no direct way to learn of another person’s safety.  Waiting can be a stressful ordeal.  As her primary person, you have the added frustration of dealing with everyone else’s questions.  

There is a way to untangle this dilemma, an opportunity to realize what we already knew before technologies such as cell phone and internet obscured our knowing.  We are able to connect on levels other than the physical with people close to us.  If you think about it, you have experienced this connection.  Has a person come to mind right before they called?  Have you been hungry for a hamburger not knowing that a friend was eating one?  Have you mentioned your thoughts to a friend who said he was just thinking the same thing?  Have you been told of a person dying and immediately visiting a family member before they had been notified?        

Sit quietly and ask to know if your mom is ok.  Breathe and hold her in your thoughts.  As you focus on your breath, be aware of your anxiety, not trying to change it.  Drop worry on the floor.  Worry is an energy blocker that stops us from living in the present moment.  Just breathe.  After a few minutes you will find your-calm-self preparing to study or to do something creative.  Make your intention to do well on your exams.  You always have your breath to refocus on when you need it.

You will have direct information about your mom’s safety soon.

Merrily Preston is an Intentional Life Facilitator, who lives in Woodbridge. Her column is exclusive to Local Kicks. Email questions to, or use online form at

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