Sign In or Register here

Plenum Dilemma

Merrily Preston
By Merrily Preston
Posted on Feb 17,2009
Filed Under Personal Development , Opinions,


Dear Merrily,

In writing to you about my packing problem, I saw that there are other places in my life where I feel overwhelmed by too many choices.  When I feel out of control, I often do nothing.  I cannot pull from the plenum (the space completely filled with everything necessary for existence). 

When asked how I am, I don’t know where to begin.
In a big store with a lot of stuff, I get flooded and leave.
My mother would tell me to choose anything I wanted in a toy store.  I couldn’t.
I hang my clothes in the closet in the order I will wear them so I don’t have to choose.

My best days are the ones where I have places to go.  On unscheduled days I often do nothing.
Why am I so overwhelmed with choice?  Why can’t I pull from the plenum?

Dear Plenum,

Are you curious?  Your packing question allowed what appeared to be an isolated problem to light up in other areas, illustrating the importance of questions.

I offer you the gift of inquiry, a fascinating adventure of personal discovery.  Name your topic – e.g., Plenum Dilemma, and sit quietly with curiosity about it.  The process will begin itself with an initial question, such as, ‘Why am I so overwhelmed with choice?”   Write this question and whatever follows.

The fun part of this practice is that, rather than waiting for the mind to come up with the right answer, we are allowing the questioning process itself to evolve.  New questions continue to present themselves.  Answers are truths that we may never have imagined.

Over a period of days answers drop into our awareness as pieces falling into a puzzle.  Although a big piece may land in the center, answers continue to fall as long as curiosity is alive. 

Inquiry is a remarkably easy way to access the intelligence of the heart as it requires very little work and is the opposite of searching for one absolute answer.

I would love to hear how your heart answers if you choose to inquire.
“. . .  love the questions themselves . . .   don't search for the answers . . .”  Rainer Maria Rilke

Merrily Preston is an Intentional Life Facilitator, who lives in Woodbridge. Her column is exclusive to Local Kicks in Alexandria, VA. Email questions to, or use online form at

Loading Loading..

Shopping and Services Guide

Exclusive deals from the best locals!

Browse our highlighted partners
Spas, retailers, restaurants and…
so much more.