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Merrily Preston
By Merrily Preston
Posted on Mar 03,2009
Filed Under Personal Development , Opinions,

Dear Merrily,

Yesterday I went to see another docto r for a 2nd opinion.  He read my medical reports and looked at the MRI.  He wasn’t concerned about the growth in my neck because it grows so slowly.  He said the surgery for that could be done anytime.  He was more concerned with the numbness in my hands, the carpal tunnel.  He told me that the surgery for carpal tunnel works, and he talked about two ways that it is done.  He thinks it is more important to do my hands first, one at a time.

I don’t know what to do.    I am very confused right now.

Dear Confused,

Excellent.  You know that you are confused and you know that you don’t know what to do.  This is where you are, your starting place.  You have permission to stay here even though it is a place that none of us like.  

This little exercise may help you.
Honestly admit that you don’t know what to do.  Gently allow the not-knowing.  Don’t look in your mind for an answer or demand one.  Ask for your situation to resolve in the best way for you.

Sit comfortably with your back straight, feet flat on the floor, hands resting on your thighs.  Close your eyes and relax.  For 10-20 minutes just pay attention to your breathing.  As you breathe, allow the confusion to be present, not trying to change it in any way.  It can be helpful to have another person sit with you as you do this practice, which can be repeated as often as you need it.
Read my column Plenum Dilemma, which describes the process of inquiry.  It is the easiest way to come in touch with answers from your heart.  When your answer comes, you will know exactly what to do.
Please let me know what happens.
Merrily Preston is an Intent ional Life Facilitator, who lives in Woodbridge. Her column is exclusive to Local Kicks in Alexandria, VA. Email questions to, or use online form at

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