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ASK MERRILY/Procrastinating packer
Jan 30,2009

Packing for a trip, long or short, is a real problem for me. I don't know where to start. I get paralyzed. Friends call the night before a trip, late, and tell me that they know that I haven't begun to pack. Right they are. Usually, I am prompt and efficient. Not in this arena. I am overwhelmed at all the choices.

ASK MERRILY/Funeral
Jan 29,2009

My husband and I are scheduled to go on a once-in-a-lifetime all-expenses-paid trip to London. My 87-year old grandfather is in failing health and has weeks to live. What should I do if my grandfather passes while I am overseas? Should I come back for the funeral? My husband would not be able to come back early with me. Or, should I "say my goodbyes" before I leave?


ASK MERRILY/Mom's care and estate
Jan 29,2009

Mother became ill a few years ago and put my brother (B1) in charge of her estate and care. My brother (B2) and I are upset because his focus is saving money and preserving the estate. Our focus is the best possible care for her. The problem is that we have NO say in the matter since B1 is in charge. He takes our suggestions as attacks on his judgment.

ASK MERRILY/Stop Gifting Me
Jan 06,2009

I have a friend who often gives me things for my home that I really do not like. I have tried to only put them out when she comes to visit but she has begun to come by "just to stop in".


ASK MERRILY / War Movies
Dec 30,2008

Dear Merrily, My husband is a veteran who likes to watch war movies in the evenings on TV. I hate them as they give me nightmares. I usually read in the other room, but I'd rather be where he is - we are both busy and our time together is special. I have mentioned this to him, but it doesn't seem to register. Have you any suggestions?

ASK MERRILY/ Absolutely Annoyed
Dec 30,2008

Dear Merrily, Your answer is fine to a point. But, I need good time for me, not just always being a good wife and mother for someone else. I need real relationships that do not always ask me to be patient and giving. I need to have me be a priority at least to me. Your answer may be right, but there are times, right now being one of them, when I am absolutely annoyed at being told I just need to nurture a little more.

ASK MERRILY / Funeral
Dec 25,2008

My husband and I are scheduled to go on a once-in-a-lifetime all-expenses-paid trip to London. My 87-year old grandfather is in failing health and has weeks to live. What should I do if my grandfather passes while I am overseas? Should I come back for the funeral? My husband would not be able to come back early with me. Or, should I "say my goodbyes" before I leave?

ASK MERRILY/Car Sick
Dec 25,2008

I have a good friend Emily who wants to carpool to choir rehearsal 20 miles away. But when I ride with her I get carsick because she pulses with her accelerator foot, fast/slow, fast/slow. She is beginning to wonder why I am never available to ride with her. How do I explain to her?




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